Listening and Change

In Malcolm Gladwell’s book Outliers I believe the opening of the book is the most important and telling part. (A village in Pennsylvania where people are very healthy and it’s not because of their diet.) That the people who are most healthiest are those who interact with other people.
What does interaction involve?
Speaking and listening in turn. Listening we take in the information that is shaped by the person sending it. By listening to the words and the way they are said we connect to the sender and as a result we change. If the words simply fall on deaf ears then there is no connection and no change.
To respond in such a way that we maintain the connection we can send out energy shaped by ourselves based on what the other person told us. We can shape the information based on the person we are sending it to.
As a result we converse, we connect, we change each other.
This change is deeper even than a healthy diet.
When we listen the person whom we are listening to can tell. It’s as if via walky talky someone responds by saying “Receiving you loud and clear.”
When we listen we change and the person who is talking can sense that change. It’s as if they are a battery and they are plugged into a circuit. All of a sudden they become part of a bigger meaning. They become meaningful to someone outside of ourselves. (And we become a part of that meaning also.)
And it all happens from something as simple as listening, as noticing. By noticing we benefit ourselves. We allow energy into ourselves. We allow the power to change within ourselves.